Self-confidence: The Key To Happiness

Self-confidence is the appreciation or attention we have for ourselves and it is the key to happiness. When a family member dies, our relationship comes to an end or we are confronted with other negative situations, it often hits very hard and can seriously affect our self-confidence.

Just because your confidence is shattered doesn’t mean it can’t be repaired. This is often the case in situations over which we have no control.

A lack of decisiveness, unresolved problems and the accumulation of all kinds of emotions can all be factors that lead to that unhappy feeling. This stems from low self-esteem.

Your confidence is the key to happiness

Being happy doesn’t just mean being content. Being content with the things around you that make you feel good and that you are in harmony with everything and everyone around you. That is the key to happiness.

Instead, certain beliefs, problems that have plagued us since childhood, and the blows that life throws can send our self-confidence into a bottomless pit.

Our self-confidence can become so low because we regularly hide in the victim role and complain. And because we, unconsciously, tend to our comfort zone for help.

Suddenly we put our lives on hold. We don’t live our lives to the fullest. We are surrounded by fear. Uncertainty takes over and time passes as if it were worth nothing at all.

However, the ones who don’t value anything are ourselves. We hurt ourselves by believing in this and behaving in ways that are detrimental to our sense of well-being.

How many toxic relationships have you had that you couldn’t free yourself from? How many times have others humiliated you and you just stood by and didn’t know what to do?

The fear, doubts, shame. Thinking about whether something is appropriate or not and how someone else will take it. Worrying about what to do with your life or that you can’t live without something. They are thoughts that sabotage your confidence and make you feel bad.

Make yourself a priority, everyone else comes second

If there’s one thing that can significantly affect your confidence, it’s thinking you’re not enough. Not knowing your worth makes you consider others before you consider yourself.

Others deserve everything, but you don’t. You should love others, but you don’t deserve love… These kinds of thoughts make you sit and wait for others to give you the things you can’t even give to yourself.

If you don’t prioritize yourself and push yourself aside, you will inevitably suffer. Your confidence is bottoming out. With that attitude, you will never be able to get yourself back up.

It may feel selfish to make yourself a priority. To think of your own well-being before you think of the well-being of others.

However, if you are not doing well, how can you make sure that others are doing well? At the expense of your own happiness? By constantly sacrificing yourself? What will this get you?

No one will take care of you, love you, or value you the way you deserve if you don’t do it all for yourself first.

Especially because you can’t give something that you don’t have at all. Every time you offer love, it will be an empty love. Simply because you can’t give something that you don’t give to yourself because you just don’t have it. So that’s the key to happiness.

Will you choose to be happy?

Most of the problems we face in our relationships, the ones that become a vicious circle from which we can’t escape, often have something to do with our lack of self-confidence.

That is why it is so important to take extra good care of our self-confidence. When you feel bad, it means that there is something wrong inside that needs to be fixed.

You cannot sit and wait for others to do this for you. Or ignoring that  you do much more for others than you do for yourself.

This would be suicide.

With this you feed your sadness and you suck yourself empty. You turn yourself into a black hole that draws in and sucks in all the negativity it finds around it.

Your confidence is the key to happiness, your happiness. And that is why you must learn to see yourself. To prioritize, appreciate and heal yourself from all that hurts you.

There is no point in doing things for others that you would never do for yourself. You are the most important person in your life, who you will spend your whole life with.

So take good care of yourself. If you don’t do it, no one else will do it for you.